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Williams, author of
Helping Your Teen with High School
Teenagers all over the world will take
the leap from child to young adult this fall. They will be entering
High School for the first time. This milestone brings a variety of
feelings and emotions. They are beginning four of the most
difficult, yet most memorable years of their life. If you think you
are anxious and scared, try being your teen.
Here are a few Parenting Teenager tips on how to make the best of
this stressful and confusing time in your teenager’s life (there are
plenty more tips in my
high school guide for parents).
Be Open and Understanding
Realize that your teen is going to be stressed and irritable for the
first few weeks of their freshman year. There are many things that
can contribute to your teen’s moodiness or withdrawn state. They are
experiencing numerous changes in their life; all at the same time.
Just like when you are pushed to your max with stress, your teen may
experience headaches, stomachaches, or sleepiness. They need time
and space to figure it all out in their own mind. Be patient and
give them the time they need to sort things out for themselves.
Be Available and Reassuring
They may be young adults with a need to start making more decisions
on their own and taking on more responsibility, but that doesn’t
mean that they are full blown adults with minds that can handle all
the stress and pressure of taking on those tasks. Reassure them that
you are there when they need you and also how to “back off” when
necessary so they can figure things out for themselves.
Your teenager is just that, a teen. You need to let them know that
you trust them to make their own decisions. Let them know that you
are always there should they get stuck and need a helping hand from
someone they trust. Show them in ways other than saying things such
as, “I’m here if you want to talk.” It’s not always easy for a
teenager to start up a serious conversation, especially with Mom or
Dad. There are times when you need to get creative. Depending on
your teen that may mean writing a letter or taking them shopping and
talking about what’s going on in their life while driving.
Be Supportive and Loving
Your teenager is no longer the ‘big dog’, but instead a ‘newbie’.
Teenagers need to know that Mom and/or Dad support their decisions.
They may have a difficult time fitting in; therefore, the need to
try new things is necessary and helps them to figure out who they
are. As long as the activity is not detrimental to them or anyone
else, let them try a new sport, club, or other extracurricular
Support them in their decision, even if you know in the long run
they will not participate next year. Give them the opportunity to
find out for themselves if they enjoy certain activities. Remind
them that family is something that will always be there. They are
moving away from you as a parent but not disconnecting with the
family completely and that’s ok.
Set Routines and Limits
Yes, they may be growing up, but they aren’t adults yet. Even
teenagers need routines and limits. It will help to make the
transition to high school easier on both of you if make limits
together before the first week of school. Sit down and tell your
child what your expectations are and really listen to their
expectations of you as well. Settle on certain guidelines and
routines that make both of you happy with the end result. This not
only puts your mind at ease, but will also show your teen that you
acknowledge that they are capable of making sound decisions and
taking other’s considerations into
Parenting Teenagers can be a trying time and high school can seem
overwhelming for them. Share in the good times and be there to lean
on for the bad. Before you know it, you’ll be catching that cap and
tassel at your teen’s graduation.
Need More Help?
Pick up a copy of
Real Life Guidance to Helping Your Teen in High School. This
practical guide includes
practical suggestions to help your child find his/her identity,
avoid bullies, handle peer pressure, getting ready for dating and more.
Click here for info.
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